I've begin choosing to be more bending as just a lifestyle; I can give in and do things John's way instead of mine, as well as just let him do stuff that doesn't make sense to me and refrain from comment.
The cool thing is that, after I've been doing this for a few of weeks, I've noticed that John has become more bending in my direction as well.
What a blessing!
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Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Friday, October 23, 2009
Day 12 - Willingness
The chapter described willingness as "an attitude and spirit of cooperation that should permeate". It talked about how sometimes in relationships there are issues where we each dig our heels in and don't want anything other than our way.
That happens somewhat frequently with John and I. We both have definite ideas, we're both rather stubborn; and we've both had years of being single and doing things exactly our own way. I've tried to become better about that lately.
The chapter used Philippians 2 to motivate; a reminder of how God chose to be willing to become a man and serve us all and how the 5th verse directs me to have the same attitude that was in Christ Jesus. I was especially attracted to the way they said it:
"All it takes for your present arguments to continue is for both of you to stay entrenched and unbending. But the very moment one of you says, "I'm willing to go your way on this one", the argument will be over. An though the follow through may cost you some pride and discomfort, you have made a loving, lasting investment in your marriage."
I want to invest in my marriage.
So the dare is to choose an area of disagreement between your spouse and you and tell them that you are putting their preference first.
Oh Father, I can not begin to thank You for sending Jesus to die in my place. Thank you Jesus for being willing to give up Your rightful place to take on human limitations and life, thank You for dying for me. Thank You so much. Father, please show me what area of disagreement to choose. Then show me how to do it. Help me learn to really love. Help me not to insist on having my own way; You know my selfish heart. Oh change me Lord, from the inside out. You gave me John, help me learn to value him. Thank You.
That happens somewhat frequently with John and I. We both have definite ideas, we're both rather stubborn; and we've both had years of being single and doing things exactly our own way. I've tried to become better about that lately.
The chapter used Philippians 2 to motivate; a reminder of how God chose to be willing to become a man and serve us all and how the 5th verse directs me to have the same attitude that was in Christ Jesus. I was especially attracted to the way they said it:
"All it takes for your present arguments to continue is for both of you to stay entrenched and unbending. But the very moment one of you says, "I'm willing to go your way on this one", the argument will be over. An though the follow through may cost you some pride and discomfort, you have made a loving, lasting investment in your marriage."
I want to invest in my marriage.
So the dare is to choose an area of disagreement between your spouse and you and tell them that you are putting their preference first.
Oh Father, I can not begin to thank You for sending Jesus to die in my place. Thank you Jesus for being willing to give up Your rightful place to take on human limitations and life, thank You for dying for me. Thank You so much. Father, please show me what area of disagreement to choose. Then show me how to do it. Help me learn to really love. Help me not to insist on having my own way; You know my selfish heart. Oh change me Lord, from the inside out. You gave me John, help me learn to value him. Thank You.
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