I failed to come up with questions prior to going out to lunch with John and that, coupled with the fact that we went to John's favorite restaurant - wood grill buffet, made it so I really didn't get to know more about him. He was up and down quite a bit at the buffet.
But we had fun and went to a him-movie afterward and held hands during it. I made sure to utilize prior lessons and talk about things that were his topics of interest. I made sure to make time later for intimacy.
So it was a good time and I just need to keep in mind the challenge for another time during the next couple of weeks.
But I don't think I should let that keep me from going on to the next chapter. While I don't feel the need to do these challenges daily, I do want to pick back up my pace to be doing two per week. I think that's enough focus, while still be realistic about life, for me to do to help our marriage.
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Friday, January 29, 2010
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Day 18 - Committing to grow in understanding John
Like everyone else, I want to be understood.
The authors put a different slant on understanding; they talk about knowledge bringing understanding. The more I learn about John, the more I'll understand him.
The authors talk about how, when you were dating, you wanted to learn everything you could about your spouse. But frequently, after marriage, when you realize the yucky stuff about him, that desire diminishes. I see that as true about me.
The challenge is to make a dinner for John & I and during that time just focus on getting to know him better. Instead of making a dinner, I've asked John out. I'm going to try to be in the mindset I was when we were dating and trying to get to know him better. I appreciate the truth that the authors point out; that sometimes I can feel like I already know John, but there's always more to learn about a person. The more I learn about him, the more my understanding is increased, the more I understand the less likely I am to be irritated by some things due to my lack of understanding.
So I'm going to spend some time today thinking & praying about things I can ask John over our meal together.
The authors put a different slant on understanding; they talk about knowledge bringing understanding. The more I learn about John, the more I'll understand him.
The authors talk about how, when you were dating, you wanted to learn everything you could about your spouse. But frequently, after marriage, when you realize the yucky stuff about him, that desire diminishes. I see that as true about me.
The challenge is to make a dinner for John & I and during that time just focus on getting to know him better. Instead of making a dinner, I've asked John out. I'm going to try to be in the mindset I was when we were dating and trying to get to know him better. I appreciate the truth that the authors point out; that sometimes I can feel like I already know John, but there's always more to learn about a person. The more I learn about him, the more my understanding is increased, the more I understand the less likely I am to be irritated by some things due to my lack of understanding.
So I'm going to spend some time today thinking & praying about things I can ask John over our meal together.
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