I am a rude person. I am selfish.
As I'm working my way though this book I repeatedly see how selfish I am and specifically how that plays out in various ways. Because of the "day 5" (I'm obviously taking more than a day to work on each of these days) focus is rudeness I am becoming more aware of that.
Oh Father, change my heart. Help me be more aware of others instead of it always being about me. Tenderize me on the inside to where I can see other first. Thank You for Your patience with me.
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Thursday, July 23, 2009
Sunday, July 19, 2009
Day 5 - Refraining from rudeness
The authors made a valid point by stating that the main reasons why people are rude to one another are ignorance and selfishness. They go on to list 3 guiding principles for marriage:
Because of how John doesn't always focus, and just the general awkwardness of such a question, I emailed him. He emailed me back how he wants to focus instead on the good he sees in me or me doing for him. But then later that day when he asked me something and I responded with something to the effect of as I've already told you several times ...prior to answering the question, he said that was one of those things. So I will work to not do that any more; just give grace and & a brief answer - no need to add in if I've already told him this several times. When I think about it there is not any value in that. Those comments are not going to change him.
Later he said something about something else but then said he doesn't want to waste any of the 3 on that. Interesting how he got into it. He also said he's afraid of what I'll say to him; I told him this is about me this time.
John's MO is to not want to talk about my stuff because he absolutely doesn't want to deal with his. So he'll let me be on the premise that I'll let him be. But that doesn't make for a good marriage. So I'm glad I opened up the door to work on me, that's who I'm responsible for.
- Treat your mate the way you want to be treated.
- Be as considerate to your spouse as you are to co-workers and strangers.
- Consider what your spouse has asked you to do and not to do - honor requests.
Because of how John doesn't always focus, and just the general awkwardness of such a question, I emailed him. He emailed me back how he wants to focus instead on the good he sees in me or me doing for him. But then later that day when he asked me something and I responded with something to the effect of as I've already told you several times ...prior to answering the question, he said that was one of those things. So I will work to not do that any more; just give grace and & a brief answer - no need to add in if I've already told him this several times. When I think about it there is not any value in that. Those comments are not going to change him.
Later he said something about something else but then said he doesn't want to waste any of the 3 on that. Interesting how he got into it. He also said he's afraid of what I'll say to him; I told him this is about me this time.
John's MO is to not want to talk about my stuff because he absolutely doesn't want to deal with his. So he'll let me be on the premise that I'll let him be. But that doesn't make for a good marriage. So I'm glad I opened up the door to work on me, that's who I'm responsible for.
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